Certainly a way to kick off motherhood right?
The Yahoo CEO graced the cover of Fortune Magazine’s 50 Most Powerful Women this week, and also met a firestorm of controversy on the internet. Mom blogs, message boards, and parenting websites attacked the first time mom, criticizing her for not appearing pregnant on the cover — she gave birth this week to a son, so I’m pretty sure she’s not back to this pre-pregnancy shape just yet!
Many insisted that by appearing on the cover in all her pregnant glory it would send a message to women all over the country about being strong and powerful while pregnant. And while I agree with this statement to an extent, I also understand how private and personal a pregnancy can be.
Not all mothers want to show off their baby bump to the world. And guess what? It is totally their right!
While Mayer is a new face for the working moms, she also has a right to her privacy and personal choices, despite what the internet has to say. Just like any other mother!
Pregnant CEO or not, she doesn’t have to answer to the internet fueling the old and boring mommy wars.
Over on the popular parenting blog The Stir, Rebecca Phillips said:
Either way, what a missed opportunity for Fortune, for Mayer, and for moms like me everywhere. Like it or not, Mayer is a new role model for working moms. As the head of a massive public company, she’ll be scrutinized closely to see exactly how she manages trying to have it all. How much will she work while on her (albeit abbreviated) maternity leave? How will she handle childcare while working long hours at the office? Will she breastfeed and pump after returning to work? How does she manage her work-life balance so she actually spends time with her new baby boy?
All of which I find to be good points, but besides the issue here. As a working mother myself (not that I can even compare working from home to being the CEO of Yahoo!) I don’t want people questioning my choices. Whether or not she breastfeeds is her choice. Her childcare situation is again, her choice. How long she wants to take off for maternity leave again… you guessed it! Her choice!
I guess my point is, we should embrace Mayer for being a role model for ourselves and our daughters. She has her cake and is eating it too. Something we all want to be able to do.
Supporting mothers and their choices is key to success. Not throwing around online judgment about what we think she should be doing because of our own personal biases.
If you truly support women, you will stop judging them and support them no matter what you think!